Podcast Episode 104 - How to uncover the hidden parts of yourself holding you back
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Have you tried to change but kept reverting to the same issues over and over again?
Do you find yourself resisting change but don't know why?
Do you know you're not being your best self and living your best life and aren't sure why?
We’re talking about Blindspots!
Today is for you:
If you're tired of going around the same mountain with the same issues.
If you're willing to do the work at the deepest level to create real change.
If you desire to be your best self so you can live your best life and fulfill your God-giving calling.
Our personality is a like a house of cards, delicately balancing our idealized self, defenses, blindspots and triggers to lean on and support ourselves.
As we awaken to our true selves, our blindspots, defenses and triggers crop up, trying to stop us from changing and keep that house of cards from falling.
If we don't deal with our blind spots, defenses and triggers, we stay trapped in our old patterns. Those old patterns harm us, others and our dreams.
Blindspots are the parts of our personality that we subconsciously choose to ignore. It's areas of avoidance.
We must be willing to work at our deepest fundamental level to create real, sustainable change. If not, change won't be lasting if we don't get to the root.
I'm going to share our blindspots through the lens of the Enneagram. You don't have to know the Enneagram to figure out your blindspots. Just pick the one or two that jump out to you to work on.
First, I'll share the Enneagram types’ idealized self-image–what we would like to believe about ourselves.
Next, I'll share that Enneagram types' blindspot–the unconscious area we're avoiding.
Then, I'll share each Enneagram types' trigger–the external event or situation that triggered a response in us and exposed our blindspot and hurt our idealized self-image.
Type: 1 - Strict Perfectionist or Improver
Idealized Self-Image: I am good, right and perfect
Blindspot: Feeling like a bad person
Trigger: Being criticized
Type: 2 - Considerate Helper
Idealized Self-Image: I am giving, helpful and generous
Blindspot: Felling worthless and not needed
Trigger: Being taken for granted
Type: 3 - Competitive Achiever
Idealized Self-Image: I am efficient, industrious, successful and competent
Blindspot: Failing or being incapable
Trigger: Being set up for failure
Type: 4 - Intense Creative
Idealized Self-Image: I am authentic, original and create beauty in the world
Blindspot: Being Ordinary
Trigger: Being ignored or slighted
Type: 5 - Quiet Specialist or Investigator
Idealized Self-Image: I am perceptive, I understand, and I am wise
Blindspot: Not having enough resources or being foolish
Trigger: Being overwhelmed or surprised
Type: 6 - Loyal Sceptic
Idealized Self-Image: I am loyal, obedient, and faithful, and I do what I ought to do
Blindspot: Being unprepared for threats or danger
Trigger: Being under external pressure
Type: 7 - Enthusiastic Visionary
Idealized Self-Image: I am okay
Blindspot: Discomfort and limitation
Trigger: Being confined and restricted
Type: 8 - Active Controller
Idealized Self-Image: I can do; I am powerful
Blindspot: Feeling weak or vulnerable
Trigger: Being controlled
Type: 9 - Adaptive Peacemaker
Idealized Self-Image: I am settled, agreeable and peaceful
Blindspot: Being in conflict
Trigger: Being in conflict or feeling invisible
Which one resonates with you? Which one makes you go, "Ugh… that's me?!"
That’s the one to start working on.
Admitting our blindspots can be hard…after all, we hid them for a reason.
Here are your first three steps to remove blindspots.
1. Objectively look at your patterns
When you're triggered, watch yourself in real-time and find the patterns.
2. Ask yourself, "What change to my self-image am I resisting?"
Dig to the root. Why are you afraid to change it?
3. Practice self-compassion
God gives you grace, so give it to yourself.
Don't think of uncovering and removing your blindspots like right or wrong and good or bad. It's about growing into your best self and releasing the parts of yourself that aren't serving you anymore.
If you need a guide to help you remove the blocks and develop into your best self, head to click here to fill out the form for a discovery session with me.
Let's see if we're a great fit to work together so you can discover your path to transformation so you can stop hiding, show up fully yourself and fulfill your God-given purpose.