Do You Know What Unforgiveness Costs? Learning To Forgive Benefits More Than Just You

Do You Know What Unforgiveness Costs? Learning To Forgive Benefits More Than Just You

Have you ever found it difficult to forgive? Someone really hurt you and it just keeps coming back. You try to let it go, but you find yourself thinking about that incident–again…rolling it over and over in your mind.

It can be hard to forgive.

Sometimes I find it easier to change when I know the fruit. How does my decision to hold onto unforgiveness affect me–or others?

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Are Close Friendships Worth The Effort? Or, Is The Pain Not Worth It? Part 2

Are Close Friendships Worth The Effort? Or, Is The Pain Not Worth It? Part 2

Have you ever struggled with developing friendships? Last post we talked about whether it was worth it to develop close friendships.

We need quality, healthy friendships. We were built for it.

Proverbs 27:17 NIV

As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.

Our own faith blossoms as we witness another's life in Christ.

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Are Close Friendships Worth The Effort? Or, Is The Pain Not Worth It? Part 1

Are Close Friendships Worth The Effort? Or, Is The Pain Not Worth It? Part 1

What do you think of when you hear the word friendship?

Does it bring a smile to your face? Or, does it remind you of pains from the past?

Can you say that you have a “friend that sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24)? Or, do you struggle to think of anyone in your life like that?

Friendships have been a hard thing for me for decades.

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How to Navigate the Storms of Life Using This Simple Tool part 3

How to Navigate the Storms of Life Using This Simple Tool part 3

We’ve all been through storms and trials in life. Maybe you’re right in the middle of one right now?

Over the last few posts we’ve been talking about how to believe God that we’re really going to make it to the “other side” during these storms. We’ve learned that as we “listen,” God’s persuasion, God’s faith is birthed in us.

Because it takes listening for this faith to develop, we’ve been learning the skills we need to develop our ability to listen.

Today, we’re going explore “Listening” skills to birth God’s faith in us to will help us through the hard places in life.

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How To Navigate The Storms Of Life Using This Simple Tool Part 2

How To Navigate The Storms Of Life Using This Simple Tool Part 2

Are you walking through a “valley of the shadow of death” right now?

Andy Andrews says it best, “We’re all either in a crisis, coming out of a crisis, or heading for a crisis. That’s just part of being with us on this planet.”

But, as we learned through the story of Jesus calming the storm in Mark 4:35-41, “we’re going over to the other side.”

Jesus doesn’t want us to die in the midst of the storm. He is there through it with us and teaching us that we can “get to the other side.”

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How To Navigate The Storms Of Life Using This Simple Tool - Part 1

How To Navigate The Storms Of Life Using This Simple Tool - Part 1

Are you struggling through a trial right now? When you think of the challenge before you, does it make your heart sink?

We all face challenges and trials in life. It’s part of the human existence. But, the great news is we don’t have to face it alone.

Jesus said, “He’d never leave us or forsake us.” (Hebrews 13:5)

I love in Psalms 23:4 that it says, “even through I walk through the valley of the SHADOW of death, I will fear no evil.”

Did you know our challenges are just shadows?

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How God Wants You To Approach Him Even Knowing What You've Done Wrong

How God Wants You To Approach Him Even Knowing What You've Done Wrong

Have you ever met a dog that’s been abused. You go up to pet it and it cowers or rolls over on it’s belly hoping you won’t beat it? You may have wanted to yell, “I’m not going to hurt you. I just want to love on you!”

We know that dog doesn’t understand our intentions. If he did, he’d act differently. He’d coming running up, without fear, and enjoy a good belly scratch.

How many of us unknowingly do this with God?

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Will God Come Through When I Need Him Most?

Will God Come Through When I Need Him Most?

Have you ever worried that God will come through on His promise? What if He doesn’t this time? After all, this one’s “the big one!”

"Experience with God gives us experience with His faithfulness."

The more we experience God’s goodness, the more we can look back on what He’s done for us in the past. This give us confidence He will be faithful with what we’re experiencing now.

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Is God The Ultimate Scrooge?

Is God The Ultimate Scrooge?

What’s your view of God? Do you see Him a scrooge? Someone that is stingy with His blessings? Only doling out to those who “deserve” it. Or, do you see Him as a generous giver? Giving even when the recipient didn’t earn it at all.

Our Heavenly Father is a generous God. He is even more generous than we can fully understand.

He’s given us clues in His word of his goodness and generosity.

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The One Key To Beating Overwhelm–Quickly

The One Key To Beating Overwhelm–Quickly

Do you feel sometimes like life is missing something? You experience a wonderful holiday like Thanksgiving, full of family or friends, and yet, it feels empty.

Maybe, you’re worried about where the money is going to come for Christmas–which is just around the corner? Or, how your kids are driving you up the wall, and it’s only been 4 days off from school!?

I’ve been there my friends.

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5 Simple Ways To Produce More Joy In Your Life

5 Simple Ways To Produce More Joy In Your Life

Studies show we have between 30,000 and 60,000 thoughts a day. We average about 50,000. And, get this, there are no neutral thoughts!

Each thought we think is either moving us closer to who God created us to be or further away. It’s either serving us or not serving us. It’s either producing joy in our lives or not.

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How To Instantly Lift Your Mood With Two Simple Words

How To Instantly Lift Your Mood With Two Simple Words

Have you ever had one of those days? You know the kind where you just feel off. You’re not sure why. You can’t think of a particular reason, but you’re just not feeling yourself.


How can you pull out of that quickly and not let it drag on? Is there a way that could change your mood even when you’re not sure what’s wrong?

I’ve got two words for you

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Questioners - Helping Us Be Efficient In A World Of “Just Do It”

Questioners - Helping Us Be Efficient In A World Of “Just Do It”

Let me ask you this. When you were a kid, did you hate it when your mom said, “because I said so”? Were you the kid that your parents, teachers and innocent by-standers got tired of because of your constant barrage of questions.

Now that you’re an adult, do you find that new office policy ludicrous so you’re not doing it? Or, do you get bogged down in the details?

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Upholder - How knowing your tendency can help keep the “tightening” at bay

Upholder - How knowing your tendency can help keep the “tightening” at bay

How do you meet your inner and outer expectations?

Do you accomplish those monthly reports will no problem while simultaneously keeping up with your daily exercise routine even tracking it? Are you that person that determines to write a book or accomplish a new goal and you just make it happen?

You may be the one we all envy who always seems to get it done. That new client proposal–done! Exercise consistently every day, while tracking all your food–check!

You just might be an Upholder.

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Rebel - How to accomplish your external or internal expectations even when you really just want to do your own thing

Let me ask you, does someone “telling” you what to do make you want to run the other way? What about when you’re friend insists you should read “such and such” book? Do you purpose to never pick it up if it killed you? If you’re spouse asks you to do something more than once, do you label it nagging?

If you answered yes to any or all of these, you, my friend, just might be a rebel.

Um, and, if you’re thinking, “you can’t called me a rebel!” Well, you’re most likely a rebel. 😉

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Obliger–How You Can Finally Accomplish Your Internal Expectations

Obliger–How You Can Finally Accomplish Your Internal Expectations

Have you ever called yourself lazy or undisciplined because you can’t ever seem to get your goals accomplished?

Do you ever feel like you have time to help everyone else, but when it’s time to invest in yourself, there’s no time left?

How about those New Year’s Resolutions? Did you give up on them a long time ago?

Here’s the kicker, even though you never seem to get your personal goals accomplished, you always seem to get that report to your boss on time.

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The Four Tendencies – And How Understanding Which One You Are Can Change Your Life

The Four Tendencies – And How Understanding Which One You Are Can Change Your Life

Expectations, we all have them. Some of our expectations are external such as your boss needs that report by Friday. Other exceptions are internal such as that new resolution you made to finally lose those last 10 pounds.

How are you at meeting those expectations?


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The Most Powerful Discipline You Can Create

The Most Powerful Discipline You Can Create

Have you ever struggled feeling up and down in your thoughts? One minute we’re thinking about how good God is, the next minute we’re struggling with thoughts of defeat. One day we’re on top of the world and 30 minutes later, we’re in the pit of despair...don't even think about trying to escape…oh, sorry, I got distracted.

Why should we even care if our thoughts are like a rollercoaster, up one minute and down the next? 

We Think – We Feel – We Act – We Become

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How To Find Your True Beauty

How To Find Your True Beauty

Then she proclaimed with enthusiasm, “I’m so beautiful!” No shame, no apprehension–with full assurance. She knew beyond a shadow of a doubt she was exactly that–beautiful! 

Then she encouraged her little sister to join her on the chair. She exclaimed, “look, Grace, you’re so beautiful!” as Grace admired her own reflection in the mirror.

There delight in themselves was so sweet and innocent. They felt beautiful and they believed they were beautiful

Then it hit me–what happened to us between 5 years old and now!?

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