Podcast Episode 133 - How understanding people’s talk style can help you get along with people more...or just tolerate them better
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What do you dread when you’re heading to that family shindig?
Aunt Matilda’s constant advice?
Or how Great Uncle Bill always seems to take charge even though it’s not his house?
Or, maybe you love when Granny Smith tells her fantastical stories, and you’re glued to your seat over every delightful detail.
In today’s podcast episode, we’re talking about how knowing others’ communication styles can help you get along…or even just not get so annoyed or tolerate people better.
Today is for you if:
If you find yourself dreading the family, friends or work get-togethers.
If you desire to understand the people who frustrate you the most.
If you want to grow in your ability to communicate better with others.
I’m using the Enneagram today to help you understand yourself and others better.
Understanding people helps us accept them, love them where they’re at and sometimes just tolerate them better.
Focus of Attention:
Our focus of attention is our filter that determines what we will and will not notice or focus on as we go about the world.
It’s what we notice or look for when we walk into a room.
Talk or Communication Style:
The general style we use to communicate with others. How we talk and how others hear us.
Type 1: Strict Perfectionist or Improver
Focus of Attention: Mistakes - What’s wrong?
Talk Style: teaching (can sound preachy)
Type 2: Considerate Helper
Focus of Attention: How are you feeling or doing? What do you need? What can I do to address these needs?
Talk Style: Help and advice
Type 3: Competitive Achiever
Focus of Attention: How am I doing?
Talk Style: Promotion or sales
Type 4: Intense Creative
Focus of Attention: What’s missing at this moment? Focus feelings inward
Talk Style: Lament
Type 5: Quiet Specialist
Focus of Attention: Potential demands or intrusions of their time, space or energy; analyze what’s already happened
Talk Style: Symposium. It’s well thought out but can feel impersonal
Type 6: Loyal Sceptic
Focus of Attention: Migrates to what could go wrong
Talk Style: Catastrophizing, skeptical or questioning
Type 7: Enthusiastic Visionary
Focus of Attention: Fascinating ideas and interesting people, plans or projects
Talk Style: Storytelling
Type 8: Active Controller
Focus of Attention: Who’s in charge? Who has the power? Can I trust that person?
Talk Style: Authority
Type 9: Adaptive Peacemaker
Focus of Attention: What does the group want? What’s the agenda I need to get on board with?
Talk Style: Epic saga; master rabbit trailers
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